What is domestic violence?
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behaviors used by one person to maintain power and control over another.
Domestic Violence does not discriminate. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim - or perpetrator - of domestic violence. I can happen to anyone. It affects people of all economic and educational backgrounds.
Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:
- Tells you that you can never do anything right
- Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
- Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
- Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
- Controls every penny spent in the household
- Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
- Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
- Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
- Prevents you from making your own decisions
- Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children
- Prevents you from working or attending school
- Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets
- Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons
- Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
- Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol
For Help
Local Crisis LIne
This is a toll-free number that is available 24-hour a day. It provides help for victims in Pushmataha, Choctaw and McCurtain counties here in Oklahoma.
1-888-286-3369
Safe-line
The Safe-Line is a toll-free V/TDD accessible 24-hour hotline for Oklahoman's seeking help or information about domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking.
1-800-522-SAFE (7233)
National Domestic Violence hotline
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a 24-hour hotline for victims across the Nation. They also have a website with more information on Domestic violence. Click the link below to access their website.
1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)