2 Northeast Martin Luther King Avenue, Idabel, Oklahoma 74745, United States

Crisis line 1-888-286-3369

What is domestic violence?

Domestic Violence is a pattern of behaviors used by one person to maintain power and control over another.

Domestic Violence does not discriminate.  Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim - or perpetrator - of domestic violence.  I can happen to anyone.  It affects people of all economic and educational backgrounds.

Some of the signs of an abusive relationship include a partner who:

  • Tells you that you can never do anything right
  • Shows extreme jealousy of your friends and time spent away
  • Keeps you or discourages you from seeing friends or family members
  • Insults, demeans or shames you with put-downs
  • Controls every penny spent in the household
  • Takes your money or refuses to give you money for necessary expenses
  • Looks at you or acts in ways that scare you
  • Controls who you see, where you go, or what you do
  • Prevents you from making your own decisions
  • Tells you that you are a bad parent or threatens to harm or take away your children
  • Prevents you from working or attending school
  • Destroys your property or threatens to hurt or kill your pets
  • Intimidates you with guns, knives or other weapons
  • Pressures you to have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually you’re not comfortable with
  • Pressures you to use drugs or alcohol


If you or someone you know may be a victim of Domestic violence please call a help line for more information.  If you are not safe right now please call your local police or 911.

For Help

Local Crisis LIne

This is a toll-free number that is available 24-hour a day.  It provides help for victims in Pushmataha, Choctaw and McCurtain counties here in Oklahoma.  



The Safe-Line is a toll-free V/TDD accessible 24-hour hotline for Oklahomans seeking help or information about domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking.

1-800-522-SAFE (7233)

National Domestic Violence hotline

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is a 24-hour hotline for victims across the Nation.  They also have a website with more information on Domestic violence.  Click the link below to access their website.


1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

"Domestic violence can be so easy for people to ignore, as it often happens without any witnesses and it is sometimes easier not to get involved. Yet, by publicly speaking out against domestic violence, together we can challenge attitudes towards violence in the home and show that domestic violence is a crime and not merely unacceptable." ~ Honor Blackman